Tips for Less Holiday Stress

The holidays are a magical time, full of cheer and time with loved ones…but there’s no denying that they can be a little hectic. This can be truer of the holidays if someone in your family has an intellectual or developmental disability (I/DD). The good news is, there’s plenty of tips and tricks to overcome (some of) the chaos and have the best holiday possible. Here are some of our suggestions:

#1  Be aware of sensory issues associated with the holidays.

When you think of the holidays, it’s not surprising that bright, flashing lights, crowds of people and loud noises are what come to mind. While these are joyful to some people, it can be very overwhelming for someone with I/DD. Why not buy some LED tree lights where you can adjust the brightness? Or shop online instead of fighting the crowds at the mall? Finding ways to avoid sensory overload will help everyone enjoy the holidays more.

#2  Attempt to stick to the regular routine as much as possible.

People with I/DD usually thrive on predictability and routine - and the holidays are anything but routine! With new houses and new people, this can be a challenging time. Many individuals can handle slight changes to routine, but not complete disruption. If you’re able to pick and choose which events you really want to attend, and practice behaviors and safe spaces ahead of time, this will help your loved one stay on routine while still being able to participate in these experiences.

#3  Prepare your extended family for what to expect.

There is a good chance you already know which holiday traditions will create problems for your loved one, but your extended family and friends may not. Maybe you need to open presents at a different time than everyone else or have a conversation with “Grandma Sue” that it's not personal if someone doesn’t want her famous cranberry sauce. Having honest conversations ahead of time with those you celebrate with and setting realistic expectations you can enjoy a more successful time together. And if all else fails, make sure you think through an escape route if there’s too much family fun.

#4  Take care of yourself.

This is our favorite tip yet. Remember that while the holiday season may be different than you expected, it can still be magical. You might not be enjoying a huge holiday party, but you can trade that in for a mellow afternoon sitting by the tree and watching the snow fall. You don’t have to put extra pressure on yourself trying to decorate it all, cook it all, and BE it all. There is beauty everywhere during the holiday season; make sure you take a moment for yourself to enjoy it.